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Lei Wang

Lei Wang has been a science journalist in Hong Kong, a private investigator in San Francisco, and a life coach in Shanghai. A graduate of the Iowa Nonfiction Writing Program and the Clarion Science Fiction and Fantasy Writers’ Workshop, she writes speculative prose that explores what-ifs instead of how-tos. Her essays have appeared in Ecotone, The Lifted Brow, The Reader Berlin, and the New York Times’ Modern Love column. She is currently at work on her first book of creative nonfiction, a secular myth buster on spiritual enlightenment. A rational mystic, she believes there is something fundamentally true in spiritual and religious teachings that have gotten lost in the language and dogma of them. If you’re a smart skeptic, she wants to make you otherwise. Email: leiiwaang [at] gmail.com

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The Opposite of FOMO: In Another Life, I Might Not Be A Better Self

Posted on Monday, Oct 27, 2025 5:00AMMonday, October 27, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang If not for COVID, I would have moved back to China after my MFA instead of staying in Iowa City. Instead of not seeing him for three years, I would have married my fiancé at the time, an Italian kung fu master in Shanghai who had the peculiar fate of teaching Chinese…

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The Cosmic Soup, or Why Death Doesn’t Scare Me Though Many Things Do

Posted on Tuesday, Sep 30, 2025 6:00AMMonday, September 29, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang If there’s ever an apocalypse, I’ve told my friends, please sacrifice me for your continued survival. Eat me early on, while I still have viable meat. Don’t be shy. I’m not offering out of selflessness; I’d just rather not suffer. I am afraid something might be wrong with the survival part of…

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Imagining, for Grown-Ups: I Just Want Somebody to Watch Me

Posted on Tuesday, Sep 2, 2025 5:00AMMonday, September 1, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang My best friend sometimes requests on first dates that they both get there 45 minutes early and work at the coffeeshop or bar together in silence; if her date doesn’t have their own quiet work to do, they can otherwise entertain themselves or just watch her write. But Do Not Disturb. She…

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Imagining, for Grown-Ups: On Perfect Parents

Posted on Wednesday, Jul 9, 2025 5:00AMMonday, July 7, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang I solemnly swear this is not a column complaining about my parents. But the first time I listened to this ten-minute meditation on Imagining Ideal Parents by the clinical psychologist and Tibetan Buddhist teacher Dan Brown, I cried the entire way through. Also the second, third, fourth, etc. times. “Imagine yourself as…

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Imagining, for Grown-ups: On Illness & Superstition

Posted on Friday, Jun 13, 2025 5:00AMMonday, June 9, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang My mother, who was a doctor, always wished she could have been a teacher instead. She was assigned to be a doctor in 1970s China in the weird way the government assigned people to careers then, based solely on test scores. (My dad, assigned as a programmer, had really wanted to pursue…

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Imagining, for Grown-ups: On Making Up Rituals

Posted on Monday, May 12, 2025 5:00AMMonday, May 12, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang It’s my birthday twice a month, every month. Or at least I treat each 13th and 27th as if it were my birthday. I don’t ask anyone else to pretend with me; I keep to the usual annual celebratory imposition. It is an internal orientation. From morning to night on the 13th…

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Imagining, for Grown-ups: Tricks for Travel

Posted on Thursday, Apr 17, 2025 5:00AMMonday, April 14, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang “In bardo again,” I text a friend, meaning I’m at the Dallas airport, en route to JFK. I can’t remember now who came up with it first, but it fits. Neither of us are even Buddhist, yet we are Buddhist-adjacent, that in-between place. Though purgatories are not just in-between places, but also…

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Imagining, for Grown-Ups: On Maintenance

Posted on Wednesday, Mar 19, 2025 6:00AMTuesday, March 18, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang I have often been envious of how characters in stories don’t seem to need to do dishes or laundry or buy groceries, except when it serves their story, like a meet-cute at the farmer’s market or perhaps a juicy conflict between two in-laws over the most efficient way to load the dishwasher.…

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Imagining, for Grown-ups: On Hunger

Posted on Tuesday, Feb 18, 2025 5:00AMMonday, February 17, 2025 by Lei Wang

by Lei Wang [This is part of a series on bringing magic to the everyday through imagination.] Someone once told me the trick to fasting: take long walks. That way, your body believes you are at least on the search for food and temporarily forgets its hunger. When you’re in the mode of actually solving…

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